.Remember.

KARMA = your choices + your actions

*it is definitely not a bitch

The need for attention

"Human beings are social creatures and need social interaction, feedback, and validation of their worth. The emotionally mature person doesn't need to go hunting for these; they gain it naturally from their daily life, especially from their work and from stable relationships. Daniel Goleman calls emotional maturity emotional intelligence, or EQ; he believes, and I agree, that EQ is a much better indicator of a person's character and value than intelligence quotient, or IQ.

The emotionally immature person, however, has low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure; to counter these feelings of insecurity they will spend a large proportion of their lives creating situations in which they become the centre of attention. It may be that the need for attention is inversely proportional to emotional maturity, therefore anyone indulging in attention-seeking behaviours is telling you how emotionally immature they are.

Attention-seeking behaviour is surprisingly common. Being the centre of attention alleviates feelings of insecurity and inadequacy but the relief is temporary as the underlying problem remains unaddressed: low self-confidence and low self-esteem, and consequent low levels of self-worth and self-love.

Insecure and emotionally immature people often exhibit bullying behaviours, especially manipulation and deception. These are necessary in order to obtain attention which would not otherwise be forthcoming. Bullies and harassers have the emotional age of a young child and will exhibit temper tantrums, deceit, lying and manipulation to avoid exposure of their true nature and to evade accountability and sanction. This page lists some of the most common tactics bullies and manipulators employ to gain attention for themselves. An attention-seeker may exhibit several of the methods listed below."

http://www.bullyonline.org

Merry Xmas

Comment ne pas avoir pitié, et peine, pour celle qui veut juste attirer l'attention?
Comment ne pas la regarder avec compassion, quand elle est desarmée et sans issue?
Comment ne pas rire à entendre ses histoires forçées....

Quand on rend à césar ce qui appartient à césar,
elle ne dit pas Merci,
mais trouve toujours un moyen de compliquer son existence, et l'existence des autres,

Les autres qui ont juste décidé de marcher vers l'avant, et la laisser derrière...
Les autres qui ont juste compris qu'une personne comme ça, ne peut jamais donner, mais au contraire, veut tout prendre,
Les autres qui sont venus juste pour aider, pensant que elle était une bonne personne....

Ta place est ailleurs, et tu te perderas à essayer d'en garder une dans ma vie,

Entretemps, console toi avec toi-même..........
Console toi en créant une vie que tu n'as pas,
console toi avec le peu que tu as dans ton coeur, le peu que tu as d'amour à te donner, et à donner aux autres

D'ici là,

Joyeux Noel,

They keep fullfilling their days&nights,
running, willing to forget who they really are,
overshow....
they even believe in that fake image,

but I wonder,
what do they do when they meet themselves,
when they feel what is really there, inside?

It is certainly easy to convince people,
what is hard, is to convince ourselves,
have the exact image of who we really are,
what we really feel, what we say and what we do,

A wise man once always told me:
"those who are lost should have a seat and stop,
this is the only way to learn,
know then achieve...."

I read mentalization works, when we decide to work on it,
when the mental image of what we think, is perfectly compatible with what we feel,

Now, Imagine feeling/thinking in a way, and showing/doing the opposite....

They still have a long way to walk,

Hopefully they'll wake up

"on time",

The day they accept that they're angry with themself,
they'll stop messing around with the others,

In the meanwhile,



let's have....Compassion

"Cada ação (Karma = ação) protagonizada gera inexoravelmente uma reação, ainda que a ação inicial tenha sido apenas palavra ou pensamento. Então, devemos tomar muito cuidado com o que dizemos e com o que pensamos, não por uma razão meramente moral, mas por saber que não haverá como furtar-nos à responsabilidade das consequências."

Mestre DeRose

Depression.......there you are,

"when we're dying or have suffered a catastrophic loss, we all move through five distinct stages of grief. We go into denial because the loss is so unthinkable we can’t imagine it’s true. We become angry with everyone, angry with survivors, angry with ourselves. Then we bargain. We beg. We plead. We offer everything we have, we offer our souls in exchange for just one more day. When the bargaining has failed and the anger is too hard to maintain, we fall into depression, despair, until finally we have to accept that we’ve done everything we can. We let go. We let go and move into acceptance."

Elisabeth Kubler-ross